Update: At the end of 2018 the Tumblr-pocalypse hit and the site did away with just about all content that could be considered “adult”. It was a sad day and makes this piece something of a relic of times gone by.
For the last 11 months I have been in a relationship that has always involved some degree of distance between my partner (you know him as “the cute boy”) and I. First we lived about 90 minutes apart and his job would keep him traveling for weeks at a time, then that job ended and he moved to a place that is 3 hours away. This is not awesome. What is awesome though is that this is the most amazing relationship of my life and involves really incredible sex. Like consistently awesome sex that just keeps getting better. There are a couple of reasons for this but today I’m just going to tell you about one- Tumblr porn.
Tumblr* porn is amazing and can add so much to your sex life! Really. Stay with me here. Early in our relationship I was hanging out with my friend Elle Chase (The woman behind Lady Cheeky) and we were talking about something she had posted on her (amazing) site. It struck me how hot it was and I emailed the image to the cute boy and a habit was born. We would both scour Tumblr and email each other images we liked. When I was on a long business trip I sent him an entire story in Tumblr porn (“we would start here, then this would happen…”). Over time we refined our technique and today we have our own Tumblr account, that we both have the login info for, where we follow a bunch of our favorite porn blogs and reblog things for each other to see.
Now, why is this so great? I believe it has kept our sex awesome and I’ve put together this list of 5 ways Tumblr porn can help to maintain or even, yes I said it, revolutionize your sex life.
Inspiration
Tumblr is like Pinterest for sex – All sorts of things you want to try that will most likely look nothing like the picture but you will get super-excited about and maybe even find a new favorite by trying.
Communication
I’m a big fan of communication between partners but I know sometimes when there’s something you want to try or kink you have it can be daunting to say it out loud to a new partner. You know what is way less scary? Sending them a picture of hot, naked strangers doing the thing you are thinking about. Additionally, visual communication can make what you are saying click for your partner in a way that words sometimes can’t. My partner once sent me a picture of something that, I will be honest, had he just said in words I would have been wary but seeing it made me go, “Oh, that’s what that would be like, got it!”
Foreplay
Passing these images to each other is like extended foreplay and by the time I get to my partner I’m raring to go. Even if you and your partner are only apart for the length of your work day, this is an awesome way to start building your arousal before you get near each other.
Game plans
Yes. Like a football team. Remember when I talked about the story written in Tumblr porn? On more than one occasion we have orchestrated entire evenings by laying out a series of images. It’s incredibly hot to plan together, to know what’s coming and carry the whole plan out. Go team!
FUN!
One of the biggest complaints I hear from people about relationship sex after that first flush of newness and excitement is that it gets dull, rote, mechanical etc. What we’re talking about here creates so much potential for fun. It’s an incredibly simple way to playfully engage your partner and from there possibly experiment, plan, get inspired and level up your sex so it can, over time, become more fun, not less.
Sound good?
Here are just a couple of our favorite places to look for Tumblr porn:
Lady Cheeky (now on NewTumbl), Let Me Do This To You, Makes You Come
Tumblr caveat:
There is a limited selection- The images do tend to be primarily thin, white, hetero couples or groups- this may be the particular sites we follow but it is something I’ve noticed. Images of pegging or prostate stimulation are rare in pictures with the aesthetic we like (ie tasteful. We keep finding ones with people mugging for the camera while their hand is in someone’s ass. Not our bag)
*You may be wondering why I’m being so specific about “Tumblr porn” rather than just “porn”. There are a couple of reasons for this: 1. Ease of sharing. 2. Sheer volume 3. Aesthetic- well photographed sexy images- it’s my thing and Tumblr is where I found the most of it.
