Being Cool With The Sex Archive

If Anal Sex Makes You Gay, Do Tacos Make You Mexican?

A while back I had the honor of being the first person someone spoke to about their recent first same-sex sexual encounter. I was humbled by this. I

On December 3 1992 a 22-year-old test engineer for Sema Group used a personal computer to send what is said to be the first text message -“Merry Christmas”- to a

I know we’re coming up on Valentine’s day and that tends to make folks all couple-y but I’m going the other way. This week I’m doing a two part series

Update: At the end of 2018 the Tumblr-pocalypse hit and the site did away with just about all content that could be considered “adult”. It was a sad day and

I’ve been so excited to see more mainstream conversations about depression happening lately. I’ve even been seeing more folks talking about how depression affects sexuality, which is amazing! However there is

The topic of consent has been weighing heavy on my mind this last week. I’ve watched people wrestle with it, spring into action around it, snark about it, debate it,

It’s Masturbation May, a time to celebrate the wonder that is self-love. It has come to my attention that there are some fairly common practices can make masturbation not-so-fun so I

I’m getting ready to head back into the online dating world (or at least I’m getting ready to start thinking about it). In honor of that, today we’re talking a

For the last year or so there have been a slew of articles debating whether online dating is killing monogamy, traditional dating, marriage prospects, sanity etc for reasons ranging

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Being Cool With The Sex Archive

If Anal Sex Makes You Gay, Do Tacos Make You Mexican?

Let’s Talk About Text, Baby – Don’t Text Your Way Out of A Love Life

Handling Hook Ups- Know These 5 Things For Drama-Free Flings

FWB without WTF – 5 Keys to Successful Friends With Benefits Relationships

5 Ways Tumblr Porn Can Revolutionize Your Sex Life

Sex When You’re Depressed- Don’t “Just Do It”

F*ck Yeah! Talking About Consent

You’re Doing It Wrong!!! 4 Ways to Mess Up Masturbation

Reviewing My Online Dating Past to Help Your Online Dating Future!

5 Reasons Why Online Dating is Awesome! Yes, Seriously.