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Oh Canada! My Weekend at Playground 2015

JoEllen wearing a name badge for the Playground Conference

I just got back from the Playground Conference and frankly, it was pretty rad. I went to sessions about sex positive community building, ableism, erotic humiliation and a closing

In what has become one of my favorite fall traditions, the superstars over at Kinkly.com have released their Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes list and I am, once again a grateful

Imagine for a moment that I took away your ability to enjoy sex. It’s just gone. Now in order to get it back, you would have to declare that you

I had planned on writing about sex this week (you know, like a sex writer) but then my state was hit with a tragedy yesterday. Another shooter, another school, another round

Recently I’ve been involved in several conversations about people who were, well, treating other people terribly. In all cases the subjects of the conversations had long track records of this behavior and

Want to hear about my general experience at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit? Check out Raising My Voice as Quietly as Possible- Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit It’s been almost a month since

JoEllen posing with a badge reading "speaker"

It’s taken me some time to sit down and write this and when considering why I realized that Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit hit me like a ton of bricks… in

In less than a month I’ll be packing my bags and heading clear across the country to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. If you don’t know what that is, go check it

In just 3 days it will be the 3rd anniversary of this website. I can’t believe how quickly that time has gone by and how fortunate I have been

You Know You’ve Done It!! I know I’ve done it and I’m pretty sure you have too. Ask your friends, I’m willing to bet they all have a story about the

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Live & Learn Archive

Oh Canada! My Weekend at Playground 2015

Thanks For Making Me A Kinkly Sex Blogging Superhero!

I’m Talking About Sex and Depression for Bitch!

What Mentally Ill Looks Like

Calling People “Crazy” is Lazy, Do This Instead!

Starting the Conversation – #SFSMonster at Woodhull

Raising My Voice As Quietly As Possible – Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit

I’m Heading To Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit!

Learn The Business of Sex Blogging with Me & Epiphora!

Everyone Makes This HUGE Mistake in BED!!!