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Won’t Work For Free (Or Condoms)

This week I received an email (I’m sure many of my colleagues received it too) from a large, well-known condom company offering me the “opportunity” to “collaborate” with them

Back in 2012, after my marriage split up when, I knew one of my goals was to have a happy, healthy, really hot sex live but I had not a

A while back I had the honor of being the first person someone spoke to about their recent first same-sex sexual encounter. I was humbled by this. I

We’ve all been there, maybe you’re sick, maybe it’s a super-stressful time at work, maybe you’re going through a break up- there are a million and one (and probably more)

On December 3 1992 a 22-year-old test engineer for Sema Group used a personal computer to send what is said to be the first text message -“Merry Christmas”- to a

So those of you who have been following along at home already know that this has been a trying time for me. The second half of last year was marked

Don’t worry, I’m not going to talk about that movie with the number and the color in the title… Last year I spent Valentine’s Day with a man who I was

I know we’re coming up on Valentine’s day and that tends to make folks all couple-y but I’m going the other way. This week I’m doing a two part series

Last week the fabulous Crista Anne appeared in the Philadelphia City Paper talking about her “Orgasm Quest” – a project based on her mission to recover the orgasms she has lost

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Live & Learn Archive

Won’t Work For Free (Or Condoms)

I Got to Talk to Sex Nerd Sandra About Sex & Depression!

If Anal Sex Makes You Gay, Do Tacos Make You Mexican?

Self Care For When You’re Feeling Not At All Sexy

Let’s Talk About Text, Baby – Don’t Text Your Way Out of A Love Life

Where Did I Go? Injury, Desexualization and Fear

This One Thing Will Make Your Valentine’s Day Extraordinary

Handling Hook Ups- Know These 5 Things For Drama-Free Flings

FWB without WTF – 5 Keys to Successful Friends With Benefits Relationships

5 Tips For Writing About Sex & Depression