Live & Learn Archive

Securing My Own Mask First: Learning, Self Care & Humor

Back in the day, when I first started this site I declared that I wanted to “learn a lot of stuff and tell you guys what I learned as I

As 2014 draws to a close I have once again rounded up my favorite posts of the year. And once again what was meant to be my 10 favorite posts

I know Christmas isn’t everybody’s thing but I really do love it. For me it’s about friends, family food and love. I realized yesterday, sitting with the cute boy after

Earlier this week while doing the 3 hour drive from the cute boy’s house to mine I was thinking about how I’m becoming something of an expert at that route. Then

Have you ever seen the lists of possible side effects for anti-depressants? They are pretty long and, what I’ve always found interesting is that they are fairly detailed, naming very

For the second year in a row I have found myself among the top ten bloggers on Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes list. I can’t tell you what a

Update: The survey is closed to responses. Thank you to all who participated- the response was overwhelming and far beyond what I had even hoped for. If you volunteered to

I’ve been so excited to see more mainstream conversations about depression happening lately. I’ve even been seeing more folks talking about how depression affects sexuality, which is amazing! However there is

Since Robin Williams died on Monday I have written and scrapped three separate pieces inspired by his death. None of them quite felt right. Everything felt a bit forced. Here’s

The topic of consent has been weighing heavy on my mind this last week. I’ve watched people wrestle with it, spring into action around it, snark about it, debate it,

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Live & Learn Archive

Securing My Own Mask First: Learning, Self Care & Humor

The Best of Bedhead 2014 – My Favorite Posts

I Feel Love, So You Get Love

Ending My Unhealthy Relationship

Taking on Sexual Side Effects with Kinkly.com

I’m a Sex Blogging Superhero!

Let’s Talk About Sex And Depression, Really (Survey)

Sex When You’re Depressed- Don’t “Just Do It”

The Death of Robin Williams, Why I Talk About Depression And What Comes Next

F*ck Yeah! Talking About Consent