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Thank you for 2013

I was gearing up for a big end-of-the-year post where I would talk about all that has happened this year and thank all the people who came into my life

JoEllen sitting in a car wearing brown glasses and a white t-shirt with red rings on the sleeves and neck and a red vibrator design on the front

As 2013 draws to a close I decided to round up my favorite posts of the year. It was going to be 10 but I’m apparently a HUGE fan of

Hey Bedheads! So, for me as far as the Christmas season goes Christmas Eve is really where it’s at. Tonight’s my biggest night of the holiday season- I just love

Since moving to Portland 7 months ago I have made the same observation about online dating several times: So, I don't hike, camp or "go to shows" According to online

I’m getting ready to head back into the online dating world (or at least I’m getting ready to start thinking about it). In honor of that, today we’re talking a

Over the weekend I went to HUMP!– I’m struggling with punctuating this entry as the exclamation point seems to be an actual part of the event name… HUMP! is billed

This week over on Kinkly.com I’m talking about a subject very near to my heart- depression. It is a condition that, according to the CDC affects 1 in 10 adults

For the last year or so there have been a slew of articles debating whether online dating is killing monogamy, traditional dating, marriage prospects, sanity etc for reasons ranging

JoEllen taking a selfie in bed, wearing a t-shirt that reads "tough, proud, brave, free, Boston"

This is way off-topic for me but I figure as I am both my own editor and web master, who is going to stop me? That’s right, I’m drunk with

Note: Please be sure to read the addendum to this piece. I have considered deleting this post entirely but, as I always hope my foibles could benefit you, I

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Live & Learn Archive

Thank you for 2013

The Best of Bedhead 2013 – My Favorite Posts

Holiday Wishes and Stuff

“I want to kiss your mind” or Why I Don’t Want to Go Hiking With You

Reviewing My Online Dating Past to Help Your Online Dating Future!

HUMP! with the Redhead Bedhead (not what it sounds like)

Talking About Sex & Depression with Kinkly.com

5 Reasons Why Online Dating is Awesome! Yes, Seriously.

The Red Sox Win The World Series & I, Once Again, Remember I Come From Hardy Stock

Setting My Facebook Relationship Status Made Me Cry